Wednesday, September 1, 2010

It's a matter of life or death.

As busy wifes, moms, homeschoolers, whatever you are called to. We all have a lot going on. We have the dishes, laundry, meals, and we get ill at times trying to manage all of this. We have to stop and take a moment to realize what is more important. Sure our chores have to get done. However the most important job at hand are the hearts of our family.
After we have had a long day and our husband walks through that door. Do you greet him with a smile, a hug or when is the last time you kissed him when he came through the door.
How do we speak to our husbands? What is our tone? Do you speak with a gentle loving tone to friends then turn and speak with a harsh tone to your man. Our words can speak LIFE or DEATH.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. Proverbs 18:21-22
 As wifes it is crucial that we not only speak gentle, we must also be careful of our tone. We should also praise him. Gradually tearing your husband down pushes you apart. It pushes him away. Stop and think before you speak, (especially when irritable or rushed). Before you speak death, think of a way to praise him. If you don’t praise him someone else will. You want him to be drawn close to you not pushed away to someone else. If you look for ways to praise him not only will that make him draw closer to you, you will also find that you are drawn to him. 
I want to speak life not death. Don't you!

I challenge you today to be careful what you speak and to find at least two things to speak praise to your husband.

Proverbs 31:28

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also and he praiseth her.


Evelien said...

Hi Heather!

Thank you for your sweet post :) Everyone needs some encouragement in this blogging world!
I'm fascinated by women who can talk about mariage and how to behave towards your husbands and so on, so you just posted something great haha!
I don't have a husband but I do have a boyfriend that has been trying to measure my ringfinger, so I'm hoping that I'll be a wife soon ;) In preparation of that, I'm trying to learn how I should treat my boyfriend right. Thanks for your post! I'm accepting the challenge! We're leaving for a little vacation so I'll try to watch my words and to speak words of praise!


Marty said...

Thanks for this post. This is something I need to keep working on, and not get into that bad habit.
I find things are much better if I'm not complaining about the kids as soon as he gets home.
*I* need someone to talk to;
he needs a rest from work, not more work piled on the minute he gets home.
If I wait he gets to rest, and I get my time to talk.
Great post.

Marty at HSR =)

Shannon said...

So true. Our words, actions, and even body language can do so much. This is a good reminder.